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Many men seemed to want a real relationship with a woman and were disappointed when this didn't develop: Be prepared to accept this or don't go at all. It's not a wife or girlfriend. Lots of men go to prostitutes so they can do things to them that real women would not put up with. Ahmed said he thought the woman might feel "relief Get me a prostitute I'm not going to kill her".

The law's not enforced now, but if any negative thing happened as a consequence it would deter me. He told me, "If I'd get in trouble for doing it, I wouldn't do it. In this country, the police are fine with men visiting prostitutes. Read the research project's report here pdf.

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